ZERO DISPLACEMENT
Today i realised i am back at the same place where i started this journey of self improvement months ago. it's true that i have gained some knowledge about my self , my insecurities , my strengths , planning but if we look if from the perspective of distance and displacement i would say i have zero displacement.
The reason for this are my fragile notions about future and wishful thinking. Just imagining something and dreaming about it ,saying i will get there , won't get you there you still have to travel the distance between those two places.
When i started this journey months ago to transform myself , I had multiple goals in my mind such as :
- Becoming muscular and getting abs
- Developing work ethic
- Developing communication skills (mainly English speaking for now)
- Learning to enjoy life
- Writing stories
- Learning programming and getting a $100k job remote job and build my dreams from there on
- Gaining worldly knowledge
- Becoming secure with myself
It's been months since then and ,
- I am still skinny fat , i look decent in the morning and after a pump but on a normal day i am skinny fat
- Sometimes week goes by and i don't do any work and i have no work ethic
- I haven't progressed much in comparison to the starting level if we talk about English speaking
- I get depressed on a lot of occasions and use food, music , entertainment to tackle that, So not enjoying life as i should.
- Haven't wrote a single story since i began this journey cause all i do is thinking about drafts and plots for different stories but i haven't really wrote any story other than my last draft of 5 horsemen (my first story draft)
- Left programming after knew i only have few time and i need to put work in the M.A. entrance exam
- Complete failure in gaining worldly knowledge , it made me depressed as a person in knowing about heinous crime after seen documentaries and learning about destruction due to wars
- I am not secure with myself i am still insecure about my body , my face , gap in my teethes , bloating , having a fat belly , not being strong enough.
But criticizing myself over and over for this , won't work cause i have tried it multiple times and it doesn't work. First thing that i have to realise is I am carrying a lot of stuff in my wagon and i can't take all of that to the place where i want to go. I have to drop a lot of baggage and expectations if i want to move forward.
If we look at the habits that i decided i will pursue and the situation i am in , they are counter-intuitive and too many for me to handle at once, which is the main reason i fail at them.
For example - I am a third year student in DU , if somebody asks me what is the most important thing for me now , the objective answer is financial security cause if i am making money after graduation then i will be able to change my life on my own term.
Now, the next question simply comes how will i become financially secure and what i am doing for it ? The answer to question in theory is simple i am preparing for master's entrance exam as i clear it in march , I will start learning web dev and start preparing for ssc cgl on the side and by the time i graduate my masters , i hope to clear ssc cgl with good enough marks to get is MEA as ASO or get a good enough job offer (Rs.50K per months minimum) from a software company to move forward.
Now to achieve either the ssc job or the dev job its obvious i need to put in hard work daily and do it for long enough more than 1 year minimum.
- Hard work for me is working for 8 hours daily without distractions.
If i work for 8 hours everyday from now till the day i graduate i can guarantee myself i will be good enough to follow my dreams.
Now if i look my life from this perspective i will immediately see that major goals such as :
- gaining worldly knowledge
- learning to enjoy life
- Becoming secure with myself
- Getting a 100k job
all are the rewards of working , they come after i work daily for a year not before that .
And goals like speaking English isn't important enough cause speaking English won't get me any job my skills will do.
So , If i say i can only do three things everyday they will be :
- Working 8 hours without distractions
- Going to the gym
- Writing blogs everyday
As long as i do these three things i will achieve my goal of :
- getting good body and later on abs
- getting a good job (minimum 50k per month)
- Improving my writing to pursue it later
So , the thing that should bother me everyday is ,
- Did i put 8 hours of work today or not ?
- Did i went to the gym today ?
- Did i wrote the blog today ?
Nothing should bother me other than these things. Either its musk revolutionizing America after elections or the threat of world war 3 .
I need focus on these 3 points everyday.
Also , i have checking out youtube , having decision fatigue on netflix , behaving like an addict for stand up comedies to make myself feel better , reading and watching more videos about controversies (from Jeff Nippard to Elon musk , hate on Indians , prime , lunchly , mrbeast etc.) I have to remind myself that Steve jobs , Elon musk weren't reading and watching news when they were building apple and tesla . They were working hard on their dreams and did things that mattered to them.
In last , my message to myself is to stay away from NEWS , MUSIC , CONTROVERSIES , YOUTUBE , USE X FOR POSTING ONLY AND A FEW INTERACTIONS IF SOMEONE DM'S YOU.
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